How do you know your interracial marriage will work?
When K and I decided to be together it turns out, looking back, neither one of us gave it a lot of thought...
Bangles, Betrothal & ‘A Good Pakistani Girl’
The narrow gold bands jingled gaily as my mother in law kneaded the atta for the evening’s roti. They glinted in the sunshine when she reached skywards to peg the washing and tinkled when she raised a hand to adjust the duputta covering her hair...
Traitor to my Culture
Culture can be captivating and deadly – like a Venus Fly-Trap. You may be screaming to break free of it or banging on the door to be admitted. I’ve been both.
Challenges of interracial marriage
Making an intercultural marriage work takes dedication and strength, but on the plus side, we have a super-strong family bond, a vast capacity for empathy and understanding and the confidence that comes from knowing you’ve forged your own path in the big wide world and you have the cojones to deal with whatever comes your way. No regrets, right?
What price a woman’s heart?
Ten years ago today, I stood corseted in sumptuous silk, satin and brocade and consented to be sold to the man I now call my husband for a "token sum" of thirty pounds...