The Good, The Bad & The Hungry

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On the last evening before ramadan I get that feeling of quiet, happy anticipation that  comes before the start of something you know is going to test you. I’ve always loved ramadan, loved the way it brings families together. It ties you to one another and a common goal. While the world outside is dark and still, you eat together, pray together. At the end of a long day, you take comfort in the knowledge that each knows how the other feels: taking it in turns to bring dates and a glass of water when the fast closes, over-looking irritability and sharing tasks to lessen fatigue – small signs of care and love are magnified by an empty belly somehow.

Fasting

Fasting during ramadan is one of the five pillars of Islam which are obligatory for all muslims.

  1. Shahadah – declaration of faith
  2. Salat – daily prayers
  3. Zakat – giving to charity
  4. Sawm – fasting
  5. Hajj – the pilgrimage to Mecca

FastingIt occurs at a slightly different time each year, moving back by about eleven days because Muslims follow a lunar calendar. During their lifetime, a person will experience hunger and thirst throughout the short days of winter and the long dry days of summer. Here in Canada the humidex has climbed into the mid forties in recent weeks and it’s fifteen slow hours from sunrise to sunset – a long time to go in the heat without a drink. You need to make some changes to avoid dehydration. Slowing down, favoring the shade and trying to keep cool become high priority.

Prayer

muslim-praying-beside-his-taxiRamadan is a time to concentrate on spirituality. Eschewing food, drink, sex, cigarettes and any malicious or negative behaviour during daylight hours, focuses the mind on how much we have to be grateful for and teaches self-discipline, self-control and sacrifice – all elements of that oft-misused and thus incendiary term jihad. Jihad is defined simply as “struggle”. The struggle to master one’s own desires and impulses and to live as pure a life as possible is known as the Greater Jihad, and as the name suggests, it’s more important than the Lesser Jihad of trying to establish this purity in the world around us. After all, if everyone worked on the former, the latter would take care of itself. Did you know that during ramadan Muslims are forbidden to argue? We’re counselled to tell the antagonist we’re fasting and walk away.

Reading the Qur’an

Reading the Qur'anWe try to increase time spent in prayer and spiritual reflection. It’s an opportunity to nourish the soul and peel away the layers of trivial artifice that build up through our interactions with an often difficult and frustrating world. A time for spiritual cleansing and self-reformation, reconnecting with God through prayer, charity and kindness. We try to read the entire Qur’an during this month, it’s divided into thirty ajaza, parts of roughly equal length, so we can read one each day.

Charity

IftarMuslims believe that good deeds receive greater blessings during ramadan, so many chose this time to give Zakat (a fixed percentage of the value of a person’s savings/jewelry) and also to perform extra acts of kindness, preparing food for the local mosque to distribute to the poor, for example. We believe that if a person helps someone break their fast by giving them sustenance when it’s over, they receive a reward for that fast, without diminishing the reward that the fasting person got for their fast, so you can see how preparing food for those fasting is a very blessed act.

Ramadan is incumbent upon all healthy adult muslims. Children and the sick are exempt as are the elderly, though they should try to feed the poor instead. Pregnant and nursing women, those travelling and women on their periods are excused, but should try to make up the missed fasts at a later date.

An average day…

prayer timetableDuring ramadan, every Muslim will have their prayer timetable somewhere easy to see. The times of the prayers, and therefore the fasts, change slightly almost daily, with the lengthening or shortening of the days. Muslims rise well before the sun, to eat, and pray fajr, the morning prayer. This pre-dawn meal is known as sehri and in our house is prepared and consumed with eyes half-closed and hushed voices so we don’t wake the children. Presently, sunrise is just before six, so we get up around four thirty. I can’t eat a big meal then, especially when I’m going back to bed for awhile. I try to eat something light but sustaining, and to drink plenty of water – for me, the thirst is worse than the hunger. After eating and praying, usually while sipping my last glass of water before the sun lightens the sky, I mentally declare my intention to fast. This is called niyat, it’s unnecessary to speak it aloud; what’s important is the firm intention in your heart.

Until the new routine is established, it’s difficult to remember not to taste a dish you’re preparing for seasoning or to try the children’s food to check the temperature. I remember one ramadan absently popping a strawberry from the garden into my mouth while weeding. It’s surprising how often we eat without thinking or even tasting, but because intentions are deemed as important as actions, a genuine mistake doesn’t affect the purity of the fast.

Throughout the day we make extra effort to observe zuhr, the noon prayer and asr in the afternoon and try to find some time for contemplation and reading of the Qur’an. Usual social activity is scaled down to allow for this and also because our energy levels are low!

Namaz-Muslim-PrayerSunset is currently just before nine but by the end of the fast it will have moved to eight fifteen. You’re not supposed to prolong the fast any longer than it lasts. It’s not about how much discomfort you can bear, it’s about what you learn and how you grow as you undergo it. We break our fast promptly with dates and water as the prophet did before us. This is called iftar. We carry chewing gum for times when we’re out or driving. We pray maghrib, the dusk prayer, then enjoy our meal. Afterwards we try to pray tarawih, a set of prayers exclusive to ramadan. The last prayer of the day is isha, the night prayer, and depending on the time, some people will pray this after they’ve completed tarawih. Otherwise it’s said before bed.

It’s a long day and sometimes it feels like an effort to complete the prayers, but really it’s down to your perspective. It’s not supposed to be a trial. Prayer is about taking time for yourself, to find your peace and your centre. It’s an opportunity to refresh your motivation for the fast and a break in the busy day. The only casualty of a missed prayer is the one who missed it – as it was a chance for personal space and time. Ramadan is a short time in the course of a year and self-knowledge and spiritual development take time and effort. There’s no “fast-track” to enlightenment.

Reminders of food and eating are all around, especially here in Canada where people are always walking around with a drink or a snack, not to mention the mouth-watering aroma of barbecue that drifts on the evening breeze. Suddenly there are all sorts of things you have a burning desire to consume. I tell myself to wait until the end of the day but by then all it takes is a small meal to fill my stomach because it’s shrunk! If you eat too much you feel like sprawling in a chair instead of praying. You get used to preparing food for others but not eating yourself – after all, I still have to feed the kids. In England, K used to come home from work and watch the Food channel on TV, which I found absolute agony!

ramadanOver the course of the month your body adjusts to the new timetable. You’re expected to continue with life as normal. You try to get to bed earlier so that the early mornings don’t rob you of too much sleep. If your mouth becomes dry during the day it’s fine to rinse it out with water as long as you don’t swallow any. Looking at it simplistically, you’re only missing lunch, but the long gap between breakfast and dinner does cause poor concentration and irritability and it takes great effort sometimes, not to inflict that on those around you. I remind myself that this is a normal diet for people in some parts of the world and that humbles me. I remember a piece in the newspaper last year about how the muslim athletes in training for the Olympics still observed their fasts. This year I’ll still be running my 5km every other day. When it gets tough, I’ll think of those Olympic athletes and people like Terry Fox, who managed so much despite having a prosthesis, and I know I’ll find the strength.

In many muslim countries the working day is reduced to as little as five hours but elsewhere fasting muslims still need to maintain the nine to five timetable. It’s not uncommon in the Middle East for people to enjoy nightly feasts of lavish food. A variety of dishes are prepared and served to cater to all cravings and desires and there is a celebratory, festive atmosphere. Some consume more during Ramadan than at other times of the year and spend the month dining luxuriously at the houses of friends and relatives. This contradicts the spirit of Ramadan. It’s not about delaying indulgence and rewarding yourself with a party at the end of every day. It’s about sacrificing indulgence, acknowledging and being grateful for our comforts, and spiritual growth. The time for celebrations comes at the end of the month when Muslims all over the world celebrate Eid ul-Fitr with gifts, food, festivity and fun.

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49 Comments

  1. I give you quite a bit of credit going without food. I don’t believe I could do it, I tend to get massive headaches if I don’t eat properly. This was a very nice post, you explained everything quite well for us non-Muslims.

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    • My husband finds it difficult as he gets migraines when his blood-sugar levels drop. I’m glad you found it informative. Hopefully it demystifies it a little :-)

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  2. Hi Aisha, I am going to share this with my Facebook friends and others, who may be curious about how people cope with Ramadan, and how it is organized – if that is the right word. Here in the tropics it is so hot every day – but the good thing is our day is shorter than yours (at this time of year it is from 7am to 7pm) – it hardly varies throughout the year… I love your illustrations by the way… Good luck with your fasting this year…

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  3. What a brilliant simple to digest (pardon the pun) explanation of Ramadan. I never fully understood what it actually meant until now. Thank you! :) However, it can’t be healthy for you to abstain from drinking water though!
    I admire your resolve!

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    • Lol! You just couldn’t help yourself, could you? I’m glad it gave you a clearer understanding. The lack of water is the hardest part, but you just have to slow down. Going without water for fifteen hours isn’t fatal :-/ I make sure I rehydrate when the sun goes down. I usually don’t bother with tea and coffee during ramadan as they’re diuretics.

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      • Soreee :)
        I really admire your resolve. I can’t go five minutes without thinking about food. I have bookmarked this post for future reference.

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  4. As a migraine sufferer myself, that must be hard. Would medication break his fast? Or is taking medication permitted?

    I admire your discipline. Ramadan Kareem :)

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    • Yes Judy, you’re right – medication would break the fast. He usually eats complex carbs and foods with a low glycemic index in the morning, so that he gets a slow sustained sugar release. Thankyou for the good wishes :-)

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  5. Great article Aisha. We didn’t plan as well as we should have this year. As I am an atheist, I tend not to think about it, I depend on Mr O to instruct what needs to be provided/done. Thank you for providing a clear explanation for non-Muslims!

    Carole, I agree no sport without water, way too dangerous. However they can cope with normal restful activity levels.

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    • Glad you found it helpful Robyn :-)

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      • The more I thought about it, the more I liked it. Hope you do not mind Aisha, I reblogged it – I don’t often do that, but it was such a lovely article and you cover the topic about 1000% (that is not a typo) better than I could!

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        • Thanks Robyn, it all helps to get a balanced view of Islam in circulation, so that people who want to know the facts can easily find them. I appreciate your help.

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  6. Great explanation! I just read about the Ramadan today, in an interview about Olympic athletes (some chose to fast while other will postpone to a later date after the Games).

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    • Thank you Juliette, I hope I provided some background. It must have been a difficult decision for those athletes – I remember wanting to keep as many fasts as possible in the very early stages of my last pregnancy, but in the end I had to accept that I was needlessly making things difficult for myself. I managed just over a week before reason prevailed :-)

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  7. So glad you wrote this. I’m always amazed at the wide range of events (early meal, various prayers, reflection/contemplation, doing good works, breaking the fast followed by more prayers, etc.) spread over the length of a day. Then repeated again and again for a month. I can see why you’d have that combination of quiet, happy anticipation. The personal growth through spiritual reflection and prayer is particularly appealing. I suppose one doesn’t say good luck so I’ll follow the knowledgeable Judy and say ‘Ramadan Kareem’

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    • Good luck is absolutely fine Linda – whatever the words, it’s the sentiments that are important. I wanted to convey the reality of ramadan. There’s a great deal of confusion in people’s understanding of what it’s about and what takes place; and in today’s society no-one feels comfortable asking questions. I hope I’ve made things clearer and shared a glimpse of what it’s like.

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  8. Reblogged this on Love versus Goliath : A Partner Visa Journey and commented:
    This is an excellent article about Ramadan for those who are unsure of what it is really all about. I know many of our followers are curious but don’t ask questions. Aisha writes so well and is a joy to read. Please visit her page for the full article.

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  9. Hello! Please I Just reblogged this post as it will provide enough insight for non-muslims who follow my blog. Thank you for taking the time to really explain what Ramadan is all about :)

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    • Thankyou for reading and reblogging. By doing this you’re helping to make an accurate description of Islam more accessible to those who are looking for one. This makes a big difference in the fight against extremism.

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      • I know right! The misconceptions some people have about Islam are so disheartening *sigh*

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  10. This is fascinating and informative, I already knew some but its great to have so many gaps in my knowledge filled in.

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    • I’m glad you found it so helpful. Thankyou for taking the time to read it.

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  11. An excellent and knowledgeable article. So simple but so deep in contents. Hopefully you continue spreading the light on other pillars of Islam in the same remarkable way . Thank you very much

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    • Thanks for reading and leaving such a lovely comment. Ramadan Kareem.

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  12. Reblogged this on Prayers of a dreamer. and commented:
    Just to give my non-muslim followers a clearer idea on what Ramadan is about :)

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  13. This was a great post! I never knew what really happened during Ramadam, apart from the fact that it is a Spiritual fast, thank you for explaining all the detail so well – it was very interesting.

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    • I’m glad it gave you a clearer picture. I hope it demystifies Islam, and by showing what everyday life as a muslim is like, perhaps I can remove some of the sensationalism and mis-information surrounding it.

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  14. Fantastic blog post. Really interesting to read and such a wonderful reminder of how beautiful this time can be when there’s very little in the secular world to remind us to take time for prayer and meditation. vix x

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    • Thanks Vix, despite the hardship, it is a beautiful time.

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  15. An eccellente piece of work
    God Bless
    Dad

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    • Thank you. I’m glad you read it.

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  16. Thanks, Aisha. This is the best description of the purpose and practicalities of Ramadan I’ve ever read. You’ve done Islam a great service today by giving non-Muslims a peek into your life during this often misunderstood time. Ramadan Kareem.

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    • Thank you Maria. A comment like that makes it all worthwhile!

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  17. Well done

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  18. You’re so right about the lavishness that happens in the middle east – many of my clients certainly indulge – a great difference to what you’ve told me about before and again here. All admiration to you again my dear xxx

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    • Thanks Jenny – it just adds to the confusion surrounding ramadan and makes muslims look like hypocrites.

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  19. Very interesting and informative for all us non-Muslims. Thanks for sharing.

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  20. Thank you for a well-written and informative post. I teach English as a Second Language and many of my students this summer are Saudi. I forwarded your post to my colleagues, so they can better understand why Ramadan is so important, as well as the challenges our students face living here in the US, where there is always so much excess all around. Thank you!

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    • The thanks is all due to you Joan, for helping to increase understanding in those around you. Your forwarding the post to your colleagues is the best thanks you can give me.

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  21. I am an American living on Bali and am about to travel around eastern Java during Ramadan. Thank you for your well written informative post. I want to be as respectful as possible, and your post is so helpful towards that end. Selamat Ramadan!

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    • Thanks for the comment and the good wishes Claudia! Have a safe journey and a wonderful trip :-)

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  22. Hi there, i just needed to drop you a line to say that i thoroughly enjoyed this detailed post of yours, I have subscribed to your RSS feeds and have skimmed a few of your posts before but this one really stood out for me. I know that I am just a stranger to you but I figured you might appreciate the appreciation Take care and keep blogging.

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