A farm-girls reluctant farewell

Ardscull House, AthyGrowing up on an isolated farm in rural Ireland, my childhood memories are largely happy ones. I spent most of my time playing outdoors; the paddock, orchard and single-track lanes gave me ample space to explore, and on wet days I roamed the drafty outbuildings and the high ceilinged barns where the straw bales were stacked. Comfortable in the realm of my imagination, safe in the brightness of the sunshine, things could have been idyllic but for the inexplicable holes and blanks in my childish comprehension. Looking past the fresh air and freedom, all was not well in my world.

Strange things I couldn’t understand happened often in our house: questions about poison in the food, ambulances in the middle of the night, a cancelled Christmas and my crumpled, sobbing mother, grown-ups talking in hushed voices, hospitalizations and angry rows.

The world outside was a safer place by comparison. The patterns in the bark of a tree trunk, the scratchiness of a straw bale, plants whose names I didn’t know but whose appearance were as familiar to me as my own, were consistent and unchanging. The cushiony feel of grass under my head as I cloud-watched, the smell of the air after the rain and the texture of soil mixed with water to make mud pies; these were my comfort in the face of unexplained disappearances, and the confusion that made itself a nest in the pit of my stomach. Through them, I came to know the miniscule detail in my surroundings like the ridges and whorls on my fingertips.

I was eight when my parents decided to leave Ireland and move to Britain. The farm, the ponies, the cats and chickens – would be left behind. Our farm had been handed down through my father’s family. It was all I had ever known, all I had ever needed. I didn’t want to go, but that didn’t matter. I would be ripped from my pastoral womb, like a sailor pried from the mast of a sinking ship. The confusion and fear would continue in our new homeland, but I would no longer have nature’s talismans to ward them off. I was leaving the environment I wore like a second skin, for Suburbia. Like a stone removed from its muddy indent, I was about to be displaced.

Two memories from that time come to mind. Like thirty-second segments of video, I play them in my head and the images are full of clarity and pathos. The first is of me sitting on a chair in the kitchen, buried in “The Adventures of the Famous Five”, while packing and moving went on, back and forth around me. I know now, my immersion in books was a way of escaping the bleakness of my reality. My outward appearance of absorbed, literary contentment belied the turmoil I was struggling to quell inside.

A treasured giftI read as though my life depended on it and I recall the bittersweet joy when I received a leaving present from my teacher – two books: The Secret Garden and The railway Children. Like an addict, I needed to know my supply was taken care of. Who knew if they had good books in Britain? I still have those books, yellowed now around the edges of the pages, the inscription on the flyleaf a reminder of a lost time and a teacher’s thoughtful gesture. The signs of their ageing are a souvenir of a long-ago life that almost feels like it was someone else’s.

The second memory still burns like it was yesterday. When I recall it, the sadness washes over me like a wave and my eyes well up. Even at eight, I understood that this was one of those pivotal moments in life. That from now, things would change and there would be no way back to what was before. In my mind, I see us in the car – my parents, my two younger sisters and I. It’s night-time, and we are about to leave the only home I have ever known for the last time. Slowly my father pulls out of the farmyard gate. Halfway through he stops and gets out of the car; the hope leaps into my mouth that maybe they’ve changed their minds and we will stay. But it is only to retrieve a ball from beside the gate post that had been overlooked in the packing. My child’s logic still allows me a small sense of relief; I might be losing my home but at least we saved the ball! He puts it into the boot with the suitcases, gets back into the car and slowly, unalterably, we continue our journey down the lane, the same lane I have run up and down all my life, never thinking there would come a day when I would go and not come back. Leaving the centre of my universe behind, we continue towards our destination: the ferry port in Dublin.

My parents had booked an overnight crossing from Dublin to Holyhead. Once in our cabin, they settled us in our bunks, humoring our tired curiosity and fascination with our new surroundings; from the beds that opened out of the wall to the port-hole that showed only spray-soaked inky blackness. After tucking us in, they left the cabin, the wedge of yellow light disappearing as the door shut behind them. Beneath me, I felt the thrum of the ships engines, as we pulled out of Dublin Harbor, leaving behind the twin towers of Poolbeg power station my sister and I had christened Stripey Socks. Gently lulled to sleep by the movement of the Irish Channel, I realised the unfamiliar would be my companion for a while now. Home was behind me – the world lay ahead.

28 Comments

  1. Fabulous writing!

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    • …and there it goes. My heart just swelled up like a balloon! Thank you Lindsay :-)

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  2. heart felt piece

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  3. Beautiful, amazing writing. xxx

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  4. interesting blogs, question what made you become an muslim and marry the love of your life ?

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    • Stay tuned and you’ll find out! I’m on a bit of a narrative roll at the moment. Why not subscribe to make sure you don’t miss the next installment…

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      • Well i’ll just have to wait ive read a few amount of your blogs very interesting person i would say ?
        but i shall wait for my questions answer ?

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  5. you continue to surpass yourself (and make me well up) – fantastic writing xx

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  6. This is so beautifully put.

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  7. Wonderful writing. Its almost starting to look like a petition of how great you writing is :o). Strange how things happen for a reason – your love and safety in the published picture and word I imagine set you up for a life long love of literature …..and writing.

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    • Thanks for the compliment. It IS funny how things work out. Although I have always loved to read and have a wide vocabulary, my husband always used to express his bewilderment at my total inability to articulate myself orally. Maybe the writing will help to change that…

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  8. Very well written.

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  9. I too escaped into the wonderful world that books created for me.

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    • It’s a great way to travel. The only limits are your imagination, or your eyesight!

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  10. Wow. This reminded me so much of when I moved from Oklahoma to Minnesota (nearly 1000 miles!) when I was 8. Don’t you love it when what you’ve written really touches people? Well you’ve done that here. Beautiful. I hope you’re working on a memoir…

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    • A move like that when you’re young really is like leaving earth for another planet. You have no idea what to expect! That is a great compliment you paid me, thank you. I’ve definitely led an unconventional life, so I’m not lacking in inspiration!

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  11. I loved this poignantly written account from your childhood. Like you, I spent part of my childhood, teen years on a farm in the Sudan. Books and writing become our companions in those circumstances I think…and look how beautifully you described it all, even the sad parts.

    Look forward to staying in touch

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    • Me too. Thanks Zvezdana, glad you enjoyed it. Dubai must seem a world away from growing up on a Sudanese farm!

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  12. “Like a stone removed from its muddy indent, I was about to be displaced.”
    Beautiful! Love this piece more than any other today. This hits the spot nicely for me. Again, I’d love some dialogue though – then it would be perfect. Gosh, I am hooked now and want to know much more of your story… Jo Parfitt

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    • Thanks Jo, grateful for the feedback. Watch this space…

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  13. Really terrific Aisha. You’ve painted a haunting scene that makes us all grieve for that little girl. Dialogue is the hardest part to nail, but if done well will take it even further.

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    • Thanks Linda. Interesting reference to grieving. I never thought of it like that, but I guess that best describes it. Glad you enjoyed it.

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  14. This is lovely. As a young girl I can remember being transported to the adventurous lives of the Famous Five. I would rip through 4 or 5 of them whilst on holiday, having to go to the shop to buy more food for my eyes. The secret garden was intoxicating, scary, intriguing and so un-put-down-able, wasn’t it?
    I look forward to hearing more of your memories…

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    • Some books I have read take me right back to the period in life in which I read them. They are like a memory prompt for me. The events and characters become like people who shared my life at that time, or got me through a particular situation. Thanks for sharing your memories and commenting.

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